Getting Started

What it is:

• A low-key, in-person gathering for people who recently moved to a new city
• Free to attend
• Held at a public, third place (park, café, community space)
• Facilitated with a light structure, not a script
• Recurring, meant to happen more than once

What it isn't:

• Not a networking event
• Not a party
• Not therapy or a support group
• Not a dating event
• Not something that needs an app, a fee, or a corporate sponsor

Anyone who:

• Recently moved to a new city (weeks, months, or a year or two ago)
• Feels new, invisible, or a little lost
• Wants to meet people who understand what starting over feels like

You don't need to have “moved for love.” That's just our story. The gathering works for anyone in transition.

Every choice in this kit points back to these four:

1. Weekday or weekend afternoon: because evenings and weekends often belong to partners, family, or existing lives. An afternoon gives people something of their own.
2. A third place: a park, café, garden, or community space. Neutral ground. Nobody is a host in their own home.
3. Free to attend: no app, no fee, no barrier.
4. Facilitated, not random: a light structure so it doesn't feel awkward, but never so much that it feels like school.

Before you commit to hosting, ask yourself:

• Do I have a city (or neighborhood) in mind?
• Can I picture a specific third place I could use?
• Do I have 2–3 hours to give to this?
• Am I comfortable saying hi to strangers?
• Am I willing to plan for something that might feel small at first?
• Am I okay if only 3 people show up (that's still a gathering)?
• Do I have someone I can co-host with, or am I okay solo?

If you said yes to most of these, you're ready.